Is better life meant for you?
Do you ever wonder if there is a better life is ever going to “find“ you or even if you are destined for it at all?
Instead of feeling like successful we most likely feel that we have failed. We aren’t lazy people or unintelligent – it’s us – me and you. We work hard, pay bills and try to be good, decent people but success – well that is just always out of reach. Have you ever questioned what’s the secret?
The way we grow up
We all grow up with commands and instructions as to what we should not do instead of what to do.
They started from early childhood with our parents telling us “don’t do this or don’t do that,“ “don’t touch that or don’t go there“ etc.
Then we go to school and teachers continue what are parents began, as they focus on the things which we need to improve. So we grow up with the thought “I am not good enough – everything I do is wrong“
Image which is not true
We then go on with this negative self-image imprinted on our brain and it becomes a limiting belief causing us pain.
Compliments in my family were very rare – again I know, in a well-intentioned desire to keep us all grounded and our egos in check. Who hasn’t heard someone calling a halt to compliments by saying “stop it! I’ll get a big head“ suggesting that a compliment is undesirable.
Again something we were taught as young children – pride is wrong. We weren’t however, taught that there are different types of pride and they are not ALL negative or narcissistic.
What about compliments?
Personally, I was never able to accept compliments – for example when somebody complimented me on a nice dress, I would say “This old thing?“ “come on – I’ve had it for years. It‘s not even in a fashion anymore“ and then I would start to over think the situation.
In the back of my mind was the thought “OMG, what is wrong with my dress?“ or “did they really mean it?“ It wasn’t long before those around me knew I would reject their compliments so I didn‘t get them very often.
It even got worse and I started to think that I‘m not pretty enough, that I‘m not clever enough or good enough to have anything better. This is just a small example but can you relate too?
I now know that this was the way I had been thinking about myself for many, many years and I was not even aware that I was doing so, as these thoughts are “normal“ for many of us.
Is it all about „luck“?
For years I have been plagued with self-doubt, continually surprised when things were not working for me.
I just couldn’t understand what was wrong with me. Is it all just about good luck? I just couldn’t accept that this was how it works and that I have no control over my own future.
So I started examining myself and looking for answers. I just burned to know the secret. The Universe was listening and it usually works that if you are looking for something you find it!
I am sure that these well-known statements are nothing new to you:
You can’t change others, you can only change how you react to them.
If you want to see changes start with yourself.
Yes, I too have heard those sayings many times before but just did not apply them to myself. It just didn’t “click“, I wasn‘t aware of all my negative thoughts and how they were affecting me and holding me back.
When I finally started to look at what I REALLY thought about myself, what was inside my head, everything became clear to me.
Awareness
Awareness is the first step towards change.
This famous manifestation formula is well known but in case you do not know it, please take a moment to process it:
T & E & A = R
Thoughts create Emotions ~ Emotions create Actions ~ Actions create Results
Everything starts with the thoughts in our head. The way we think is the way we are going to feel (emotions) We act according to our feelings and of course results are products of our actions.
When you think good, you feel good
If we want to see different results we have to start with our thoughts! Here is an example: If you have £200 and spend it all at once – do not be surprised you have nothing left. If you invest the £200 instead, you will have your £200 & profit.
When I read this formula everything suddenly clicked, making sense to me and I was so relieved! It isn‘t about luck or random good fortune (unless you want to believe it is all about luck of course).
I realized that your thoughts create the reality around you. If I change my thoughts on my blueprint I could do anything I want to do! With my new thoughts, I can achieve anything – I can be anyone!
Of course, there are more steps to change your life completely and it does not happen overnight but this is a strong foundation block to start from and the awareness is the first step to it.
Feed your mind with thoughts which are positive and good. Good produces more good – It doesn’t cost anything and it is a pleasant thing to do!
Dare to dream!
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