Facing the real you
When you face the real you – the person who you are behind closed doors… and are able to pursue it, you will 
discover your true potential and will be unstoppable!
During my transformational journey, I have learned lessons which have challenged me to change the way I think, act or simply the way I do things.
Recently I became more and more aware of my biggest fears, which I face every time I meet new people. Since I know and recognize them, I can work through them by subconsciously stepping back, taking a deep breath in… and remembering the lessons I have learned.
I guess you could be wondering what these “big” fears that I have are? They are the fear of reality. The fear of a disappointment. The fear of losing those people around me who I love and care about.
It all started for me at a young age – when I left home for the first time. As a young person experiencing failures and leaving loving people who were always around me behind, I subconsciously tried to protect myself from other disappointments that might have come.
Shield of protection
I created a protective shield deep in my mind that was like a wall. I would put up this mental wall between myself and other people because in my head I was thinking “What was the point of being with someone or getting to know them if they were going to leave me anyway?” I know, it sounds all silly – especially as it was me leaving my loved ones when I left home but this is how I felt. I thought that in order to become a stronger person, in order that I don’t feel pain, I needed to shut people out.
Now that shield was very effective and it fulfilled it’s primary function as I was living in an emotionally secure zone. Sadly, while I felt safe and protected – I forgot who I really am. I wasn’t able to express my feelings as they were behind the wall. I had blocked out the fears but I had blocked in me – the REAL ME. It was a very strategic decision and I was playing safe. The problem with playing safe, however, was I did not realize I was slowly starving my inner self-worth with the strategy I chose and killing any opportunity that might have arisen.
Safety strategy of middle ground
This all was happening subconsciously and it became my habit and coping strategy without me even knowing it.
So anytime I met someone new, I hardly gave them the chance to get to know me or for me to get to know them better. I never truly expressed what I thought, how I was feeling, or ever laughed from deep down or said I really care. Unless they were very very patient :). Or I would hold on too long to people who were holding me back – for the same reason. The fear of losing. The fear of failing.
I was that middle ground – everywhere but nowhere, something but nothing. Safe but dying. I sabotaged any kind of attempt at having a deep relationship, friendship or just to say what I really think.
Although I am aware that things are not only black or white, subconsciously I was doing the opposite.
Life is balance and combination all
I had to learn and I am still on this journey, to accept things as they are. The laugh, the happiness, the loss of someone, the disappointment – that is all life, it is the balance.
I was fed up of playing safe. I knew how it felt and it was not fulfilling at all. I decided to live my life to the fullest. The rough with the smooth, the good with the bad. That is life, that is real life and everything that belongs to it. The real me.
I have been on this journey for a few months now and still have plenty of things to learn. But knowing what I know now my life has already improved. I am challenging myself, my family relationships are better than ever and I am connecting with so many new people who get to know the real me.
Only by knowing what I know, having the awareness I have and the discoveries I have made about myself have allowed me to start living the life I have always wanted. The life I deserve. Who knows where I am going to end up as the real me with the power full on? 🙂 I’m excited and can’t wait to find out!
Maybe you are experiencing the same protective shield as I did. Maybe you are afraid of facing something you experienced in the past. We all did. Accept it, learn from it and move on. Do not let it stop you from experiencing something better.
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