Sweet love from Salt Flats
Love, sex, sexuality, romance, relationship – it all starts long before we find the partner. before we understand the opposite sex and I am not talking only in terms of sexuality.
We need to understand ourselves before we can understand others.
Does unconditional love exist or is it just a myth?
Tony Robbins says it all the time: relationships are not transactions, the greatest gift is giving.
While I fully agree with him, here is the missing link that many women have difficulties with or are still missing:
- We can only give what we have.
- We can only give when you are full or have more than enough.
- It’s our responsibility to ask for what we need, it’s our responsibility to find out what we need and fill it up.
Loving assumptions
The biggest mistake for many individuals is that we have no idea what we want, what we need, and what actually takes for us to make our bucket full, replenish it, and recharge in order to keep giving and serving.
The biggest mistake many women make is that we assume that others know what we want, what we mean, or even what we think.
They have no clue. Their only guess is based on their own set of values, their priorities, and their point of view on the world and their experiences, and not even talking about differences between men and women that we are wired differently.
The worst part? We get angry, resentful, complain or even accuse others of not delivering what hasn’t been communicated in the first place.
What does it take for you...
The same applies the other way around: We give what we think the other person needs and we call it love.
Or even we feel angry and not appreciated for something that nobody asked for or needed anyway.
Knowing yourself is extremely important! Whether it comes to your career, relationship, health, money, or any other of your life, it all starts with you!
Let me ask you simple questions:
- What does it take for you to feel loved?
- What does it take for you to feel joyful?
- What does it take for you to feel a certain way?
Asking the right questions can change your life. Literally!
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P.S.: Sending you some loving pictures by filling up my bucket list – directly from Salt Flats in Bolivia – the perfect mirror not only for relationships.
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With love,
MartinaK
