We are not that kind of people.

Words I was listening from my Mom each time when she found me dreaming out loud and shooting to the moon and behind the stars.

I adore and deeply love my Mom and I know that her words were there to protect me to keep me grounded and take a more sensible approach. Isn’t it parent’s job to protect their children from the pain? Isn’t their job to warn their children of the possible fall?

But in my little mind back then, all I was hearing was:

I am not that kind of person. I am not good enough to achieve my dreams.

The edge line to face the truth

This belief stuck with me for a very very long time and it wasn’t until recently when my loving coach pushed me out of my comfort zone. The moment he pushed me to the edge of that line – the same question pop up in my head again:

Am I good enough for this type of work? Do I have it all? Am I smart enough to do it? Am I strong enough to pass those challenges?

My tears were running down and while he was there, patiently waiting on the other side of the screen, I wasn’t able to answer his questions for some time. I was fighting with myself and hesitating whether to ask or not to ask those questions screaming out loudly in my head.

I was petrified to hear the truth that it was easier for me to work long days, months, and even years without getting the wanted results. Anyway, wasn’t I doing it all my life already? So why change? At least I have my fantasy…

What if it’s all just fantasy?

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The fear of knowing the unwanted answer was bigger than the hardship I have been through so far. It was so much easier to pretend than face my core limiting beliefs:

What if I am not that kind of person?

What if I am not good enough?

What if I don’t have all that it takes?

All my life, my dreams, and everything I believed in and who I was depended on it.

Eventually, I got the courage, and somehow, between my sobbing and wiping running tears I managed to ask terrifying questions above.

When truth penetrates

He gently smiled and asked me: Who is the right person?

Anyone, I gasped with a huge relief while still sobbing like a little kid. But this time those tears running down were tears of joy and a big relief. I could feel the burden letting go off my shoulders, chest, and leaving my whole being…

At that moment I just wanted to kiss him. I saw him as an angel giving me the golden key – the official permission and my final ticket to cross the bridge to the other side of being myself again.

Limiting beliefs revealed

I can’t even tell you how many times I used this “excuse” when things got harder because I believed I am not that kind of person when things didn’t go smoothly enough.

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I believed, that I am not that kind of person because I wasn’t talented enough.

I believed, that I am not that kind of person because everything I have achieved so far was a result of hard work.

I believed that I am not that kind of person when things took too long to manifest.

Who is the right person?  – he asked me again.

I smiled back at him and with a big relief, I replied: Anyone is if they want to make it work.

Seeking validations to our beliefs

After I calmed down and done some healing work on myself I could clearly see how much validation I was looking for the belief I was trapped with for ages.

  • When things get harder it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it – it’s time to face your fears
  • When things change in life it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it – it’s taking you further
  • When results don’t come straight away, it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it – some things take longer
  • When people leave you, it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it –it doesn’t mean because of you and it was time to move on
  • If you are not good at something it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it – it takes time and practice.  
  • If you have big dreams and hasn’t happened yet it doesn’t mean you are not the right person for it – you are still on the path

It took me years to learn the truth. Although I knew it mentally and was talking about it all the time, spreading my message further, and wanting to inspire other women too, I guess, I was the one who needed to believe it the most.

The hardest war is the war with yourself

We seek what needs the most. My case wasn’t the exception.

The biggest battle I was fighting for was inside of myself.  The fight I created for myself – is it all the fantasy or do I have it all what it takes?

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Here is what I found so far:

  • Everyone is meant to shine
  • Anyone can do it

BUT

  • Not everyone is willing to work on themselves
  • Not everyone is persistent enough
  • Not everyone dares to shine fully
  • Not everyone finds their own unique way to shine fully

All this battle I created for myself because I had no idea how to shine my unique way. All this time I was fighting against myself because I was scared of simply being myself. Isn’t it true for most women that we are the most scared of own self?

Well, once you conquer this battle, you will also find out, that’s the only way to become the real you.

That’s the only way if you want to experience real love, joy, happiness, and any kind of magic waiting for you on the other side of your biggest fear.  

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